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Sunday, February 18, 2018

Bad Christians? Skip em, Cut Out the Middle Man.

The number of times I hear someone tell me about a "bad Christian" or a "bad church" story.  Sigh.

Real stories. These aren't fiction.  And some of them preach or work at the church.

So we've got people that are hurting and searching. And my suggestion of prayer is met with an eye roll, the memory of a bad experience that made prayer and God and Jesus a sham.

I hate it, but I get it.

It's about credibility.  It's about trust.

So here's an idea, skip the middle man.  Don't go to that church.  Don't hang with those people.

Just Pray.  Go directly to the Source.  Cut out the sinners and the fakes.

It's like the great business with a good owner and they hire a really bad manager or rotten employees that run people off.  This is what happens at church too.  So stop arguing with the employee at the counter, cut out the bad manager in the middle and go and talk to The Owner.

Because people are...... well ...... people.  Working at the church or reciting scripture doesn't mean they are living out the words they speak. There are fakes. Counterfeit Christians.

Just try the prayer thing.

Trust me on this.  Here is my story.  This is my truth and my experience.

There is no person, no thing, no car, no house, no job that will fill that empty place in you.

I see you, you're hurting or maybe you're searching for something that feels like ...... more.

Skip the middle man, give it a shot.  Just pray.  Use your words, your voice.  Just talk to Him.

Look, I wasn't raised going to church every Sunday.  I was a little intimidated by the whole deal.   I've always believed in God but church seemed like a lot of rules and stuff. I was sure I'd stand out for not knowing how to do it right.

Here's the deal.  Prayer is just a conversation.  You and Jesus, hanging out, talking about stuff.  Seriously, that's it.

I stopped paying attention to the Christians that were judgmental and fake. I cut out the middle man.

I began to feel more free.  I could pray anytime and anywhere.  And I prayed everywhere.  I didn't wait until those quiet times with candles lit and the perfect journal and pen.  I prayed in the car, I prayed in line at Target, I prayed before client meetings, I prayed in the shower, I prayed and I prayed and I prayed.

I prayed a lot. What people saw of me on the outside was not at all what I felt on the inside.  I was lost, lonely, scared, angry.  None of the external successes and things could fill the hurt I had inside.

Prayer began to transform the hurt.   Prayer filled the empty space.  Jesus and me, we talk on the regular.  He gets all the emotions that I have each day.  I give gratitude, I apologize, I scream out in anger, all of it.

I do dumb stuff, I'm a person, I will always have sin.  And in all of my brokenness I can get grace and mercy and forgiveness.  All I have to do is ask.  And I do.  Then I start again fresh the next day.

Try it.  I mean really, what have you got to lose?  Cut out the middle man and go ask The Owner to heal your spirit and fill you up.  He wants to hear from you I promise.

Monday, February 12, 2018

Clean Rooms and ADHD Kids

Greetings Readers of Random Thoughts by Rebecca!

So many of you have been around reading my randomness for a long time.  Thank you!

I will still post true randomness here from time to time, you know ...... like the nacho rants I've been known to have.

And ....... I'm blogging about ADD/ADHD, leadership, training and development and other things on my professional site for Fleetwood Hession Consulting now that I'm writing, speaking and teaching full time.

Today's post is up! I hope you'll click the link and share and comment!


Tuesday, January 2, 2018

The New People at the Gym

They started rolling in a couple of weeks ago.  The new people at the gym.  I don't dislike the surge in the crowd. I think about what motivated them to get there. I wish they didn't look so nervous and intimated because most of us don't know what we're doing with all those machines either. I'd like to host a "new people" meet and greet and hear their stories. 

Change is hard. 

Change is misunderstood.

I'm still trying to stick to my fitness goals.  Everyday. 

Here's what I want to say to the new people at the gym, it's not about how to use the equipment or the best sports bra.  It's about how to maintain changes in behavior.

My thoughts and ideas about change were majorly challenged in May of 2005 when I read an article in Fast Company magazine called Change or Die.  This was a study of heart-bypass patients. Even at the risk of dying, 90% of these patients couldn't change their behavior.

Some of the new people at the gym might have been given that kind of news. Change your health or you will die.  That won't be enough.

So what will work? 

Find that deep in your gut emotional tie to wanting to be healthier.  What kind of joy will being healthier bring?  A joyful outcome is more powerful than fear of dying.  This framing in your brain has to fit with your paradigms and perspectives. 

Go crazy all in.  Big sweeping changes inspire you to keep going.  That dramatic cleanse might be a better catalyst for change than easing into it.  Get inspired by feeling better quickly.

Find a tribe and love them hard.  You've likely seen this meme somewhere in your Facebook feed.  You might need a radical shift in your gym partner too.  Your friend that is half committed to this change but reluctantly agreed to a membership with you might not be your most reliable source.  You might want to courageously friend that person you see at your new gym that seems really committed and also approachable.  Changes that stick are supported. 

Whatever you're trying to accomplish this year, I wish you the kind of sweeping change that motivates you to keep going and the tribe that will love you hard back.  There's a lot more joy to be had out there, sometimes we have to be the change we seek.

I'm launching into 2018 with my eye on epic opportunities and experiences. 

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