You may recognize our best selling book by Dr. Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Reading this book changed my life long before I got a paycheck from FranklinCovey.
Some of your New Year Resolutions may have melted before your backyard snow. Take a look at these habits and see about adopting this as your new lifestyle.
I recognize that not all Random Thinkers are going to bask in the glory of a good self help book like I do. No worries, I'm going to bring it to you straight, Random Thoughts style.
You gotta get this first:
See Do Get - Get your head straight. All that stuff that spins up there is the start of your greatness or your demise. Your thoughts decide your actions, your actions decide your results. If you're not happy with your life, check what's in your head and your heart first. Then you can work on your "to do" list.
Habit 1 - Be Proactive - Which really means, make good choices. It's not the stuff that happens to us that matters most, it's how you react to those happenings. No victims allowed. If you are busy blaming everyone else for your problems, cut it out. Stick within your Circle of Influence - There's a whole lot of stuff that's none of your business. That's called your circle of concern. Quit thinking about the stuff that's none of your business and focus on the things that you can do something about. By the way, what YOU can do something about is only about YOUR thoughts and YOUR actions. Stop trying to change your boss, your husband, your kids, your mom. Go take a hard look in the mirror. Start with the one looking back at you.
Habit 2 - Begin with the End in Mind - Figure out the kind of life you want. The kind of job you want, the kind of house you want, the kind of person you want to be. Don't let anyone else tell you who to be. You decide. But decide something. So much power in decision.
Habit 3 - Put First Things First - Now get to work becoming the person you said you want to be, the job you want, the house you want. You may have to say no to some other really enticing things like hours of twitter and facebook. Or maybe your job is getting in the way of the person you want to be, or the person you are is keeping you from getting the job you want. It's all you baby. Work it.
Now let's take a look at your relationships and what you are doing or not doing to make those better.
Habit 4 - Think Win Win I never said you'll get a win win, but you have to start out thinking that way. Just you. Only takes one person to think that way. You can't move on to the next habits until you get your head straight on this one. You have to think about what's a win for everyone involved.
Habit 5 - Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood I know you're brilliant with lots to say but you need to zip it and listen first. You know the quote: no one really cares how much you know until they know how much you care.If you're serious about Habit 4 and Thinking Win Win, you have to do a lot of listening to understand what a win is for them. Listen to what they say and feel. Go back and read that last sentence again. Ask yourself, how well do you do this now? Habit 5 is listening from the heart not just waiting for your turn to talk.
Habit 6 - Synergize - That's just a fancy word for working well together. You can't do that well until you practice Habits 4 and 5. It's a math equation, Habit 4 plus Habit 5 equals Habit 6.
Habit 7 - Sharpen the Saw - Have you ever tried to cut wood with a dull saw? It sucks. The same idea applies to you and your life. Sharpen things so they work better. That means your mind, your body, your heart, and your spirit.
Here's an easy site to help you navigate through the right questions.
It's usually about asking the right questions that lead you to the right answers.
"When you can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." This is a quote by Viktor Frankl. He survived the Nazi death camps, top that with your problems. Buy the book = less than 10 bucks - Your new perspective = Priceless